You should read the rules again.  You didn't pay attention.  You called me yesterday, 3 times, and messaged me and called again today.

If I was following what I set up in the rules, you would have one week time-out yesterday morning.  Then two weeks time-out at night when you called again.  And three weeks time-out when you called this morning.  I am not sure what you are aiming at. 

I asked you to choose if you wanted to stay as a friend or as a sub.  You picked friend, but later we talked and you were so upset and hurting that I decided to try keeping you as a sub again.  I was willing to pick up the pieces and try to rebuild.  I told you there would be rules and you need structure, I was to set them up.  I wrote them up and let you have a say, then readjusted them.

I will repeat what I told you.  You are a dear friend, yes, but even as a friend.  You can't call me constantly, you can't come visit me whenever you like.  I can't run off to go spend a day at the beach anymore because I have a husband who would not like that at all.  So if you choose to stay a friend and not a sub, you still need to be reasonable and understand that I am not here alone I am married and I do live my life taking that in account.  Dwight and I spend our time together and share a lot.  We communicate, and as understanding as he is, his patience is running thin now.

I explained that we can stay friends, and we can talk once in a while.  That is acceptable.  But I don't run off to go visit Sherri, I don't take off to go to the beach with Cindy, or talk on the phone for more than 5 minutes with friends.  Usually they call me once in a blue moon.  We don't keep track of each other.  Sherri does call once in a while asking if we will be going out.  (WE)  I don't take off alone.

I appreciate that last year when Dwight was gone, you checked on me because I asked you to.  I was alone and sometimes needed someone to make sure I was still alive.  Because I was afraid one day something would happen to me and nobody would know for weeks.  But now I have Dwight and I am not alone.  I appreciate your concern But I am ok. 

I can't have you as a sub if you can't follow directions.  I am not being unreasonable. 
If you cannot follow the rules you can give up being my sub and stay my friend.  But just know that you still can't call me every day and you can't message me constantly.  And, if I don't answer right away you cannot start asking me why and panicking.  I also will not tell you what I am doing or where I am going unless I feel it is relevant. 

I do care so much about you but you are driving me away with this behavior.